Wendy Collier Worldwide, LLC

What stops you?

I am sitting at one of my favorite cafés on this hot summer day. This place always inspires me to write. Honestly, I haven’t felt inspired for some time now but here’s the thing… the moment I step outside of myself, get past whatever is holding me back, and focus on who I am here for… things begin to open up. When that opening happens and I step into the flow, something much greater than myself takes over.

Know this… when you shrink back from something you know in your heart you are meant to do… that is almost always your ego doing its best to keep you safe… and small. 

We all have stopping points. Have you discovered where yours are, and what brings them on? If you can identify the conditions that shut you down, you are one step closer to freeing yourself when it happens. This is the key to getting unstuck. It simply begins with self-awareness.

Here are a few questions to ponder:

1)   What is your go-to stopping emotion? Confusion? Overwhelm? Frustration? Negativity?

2)   What are the thoughts swirling in your head when you are feeling this?

3)   How can you challenge those thoughts? Better yet, replace them with ones that make you feel the exact opposite of your stopping emotion.

Here’s one of my old ones… overwhelm. In the past, it was my go-to but I’ve done a lot of work to get over this and have made a ton of progress. Frankly, I just got tired of feeling so stressed by it. If I do feel it coming on (very rare these days), I ask myself this question, “What is the most important thing I need to do about this within the next hour?” If nothing, I move to the next subject that’s concerning me and ask the same question.

I break everything into baby steps. I almost never, at this point, look at the “mountain” ahead. I know I am heading to the peak with all the gorgeous views and trust that my guides have placed me on the path that will get me there (mentors, coaches, friends). I focus on just taking the next step. It works wonderfully. If I’m not sure what that next step is, I reach out for support. We all need it, no matter how far we’ve come.

What is your go-to stopping emotion? I’d love to hear from you. Share this message with your friends too!

Love & Light,
Wendy ♥
SoulFUEL™ Business Coach & Your Guide To Freedom


  • Heather

    Negativity! My inner dialogue is ALL negative. Even when I combat back with trying to talk/think positive it still overpowers me.

    • Wendy Collier

      Hi Heather! Your honesty is very inspiring. What have you done to try to combat the negativity? Sometimes releasing is much more effective then trying to overpower. What we push against usually persists but relaxing and releasing can free us from it. Remember too that you are not your thoughts. Your thoughts are running like a tape recording but your being is separate from them. The secret is to notice when they are not serving you, what it’s costing you, and begin to rewrite the tape. There are some suggestions below to consider too. Let me know if I can help further… happy to :).

      • Heather

        Thanks for the kind words. I keep positive affirmations, that mean the most to me, hanging by my computer. Being stuck in a negative head space is my norm, for my whole life. Sometimes I feel like I am reinventing wheel by trying to get to a more enlightened, spiritual, peaceful place. But I do keep trying 😉

        • Wendy Collier

          Heather, I know this is a little late but I wanted to share something I think could really help you. First, your sense of reinventing the wheel is actually your soul tugging at you to keep at it, and you are (!) so be sure to celebrate your wonderful perseverance. You are likely making more progress than you imagine. Second, and this is really important… affirmations are actually not enough to get you there. They are fantastic, and I always encourage my clients to use them (we use mantras) but they must be coupled with other actions and activities. The real trick to getting through blocks and into a forward motion is to change your emotional state. To do this, you need to actually FEEL the affirmation or vision – through and through. You really want to put yourself there, as if it is already real. You can do this by borrowing from the past if you need to. Let’s say you are struggling with money. You can reflect on a time in your life when you felt you had more than enough and put yourself there NOW and in a state of expectation. Or, you can simply recall a time when you felt relaxed about money. This will change your vibrational frequency and draw in that which you desire. You can do this with any area of your life. The emotional strength of your vision and affirmation is what is most important. Allow yourself to FEEL the positive expectation. Give yourself permission to feel the joy and excitement of all the good that is to come. Feeling it as though it is on its way is how we actually bring it into our lives. This, coupled with powerful action in the direction you want to go, will create the beauty you want, and deserve in your life. (((hug)))

  • Patty

    I can relate to what you’ve said. My emotion is fest. I’ll never be good enough, smart enough, interesting enough. That would mean people would know the jig is up. I’m not perfect!

    • Patty

      My emotion is Fear. Sorry!

    • Wendy Collier

      Hi Patty! That’s a *really* common one so you’re not alone. What can you replace those fearful thoughts with? Writing down the opposite of those thoughts and dwelling on them daily can be very empowering and will begin to reprogram that pattern for you. Also, let me ask you this – what is it costing you to stay stuck in that fear? (((Hug))) -Wendy

  • laura

    hello!nice reading you expecially in this moment…our loved syncronicity!

    i m stuck when i m in lack of clarity. then one day is one thing the day after the opposite about a specific issue.

    some advice?
    big hug

    • Wendy Collier

      Good to see you here Laura :). There is always more than one thing that keeps us stuck so I’m not surprised it fluctuates for you. It does for all of us. There is usually a dominant one but regardless… The key is to notice what those stopping points are and begin to transform them by noticing the thoughts that got you there and replacing those with more empowering ones. What do you do and think when you feel a lack of clarity? Hugs back, Wendy

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